Kissing Frogs and Other Fairytale Foolishness

Growing from little girls to women, we all want the fairytale life and relationship, most of us anyway. While not willing to admit it, it really is the sad truth. We want our love lives to be just like that that fairytales are made of. But nothing could be further from the truth.  As women, we spend alot of time dating and it often becomes very tiring and monotonous. I had a lady ask me once, " young lady are you married", and my reply was. " no ma'am, I'm still kissing frogs!" She found this remark to be quite amusing. She said that she hadn't ever heard anyone put it like that before.  The truth of the matter is, that in my young 35 years, I have spent a majority of my time kissing frogs in hopes that they would become a prince just like the one in the fairytale. Well I'm here to tell you that that's not exactly how things work. I heard Boris Kodjo say,  "as women, we often are willing to deal with the man standing in front of us instead of dealing with who the man really is. "  Now this statement alone gives cause for great consideration when looking at the people that we choose to date. I'm slowly learning that whatever a man tells you is exactly what he means even if he is doing just the opposite. He will truly show you what he thinks of you. We are often willing to deal with the potential of a man rather than taking him for the man that he really is. I myself have been guilty of making this mistake more times than I care to count. My hopes were that by now I would have been in some sort of meaningful relationship with a man that is deserving of the love that I have to give. But here I am still kissing frogs. It used to upset me quite the bit, but as I grow and I mature, I have come to the realization that everything comes in due time and rushing it only makes the process even more lengthy and tedious. So here I am eager and happy to see what happens next in hopes that eventually Prince Charming will arrive with my last first kiss and kissing frogs will be a distant and fond memory.