How many times has it seemed that the life that we're living was playing out as a dream? So many times things that we subject ourselves to are so unbelievable that the only explanation that can be given is that it's all a dream or, a nightmare.. I saw a quote recently by the most fabulous and often troubled Marilyn Monroe, and it said this: " I believe that everthing happens for a reason, people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they go right, you believe lies so that you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." -Marilyn Monroe
How many times have we sat and wondered why the things in my life happen as they do, how in the world did we get to this place? This time last year I found myself in the beginning stages of the ending of something that I thought was the most wonderful thing that had ever happened to me and couldn't understand why.... Mistaken and misled could be a great understatement although it was all self inflicted, as are most things that happen in our lives. I'm not certain why ending things causes us so much fear and confusion. I think that in life we often lie to ourselves for comfort and complacency becomes a way of life and unhappiness and discomfort become who we are and every fiber of our being is consumed and overcome by it. I was that person and have been, most of my adult life, the things that I have done in my life have been for the love of someone else and not for the love for myself. While I still have a very long way to go, the journey has finally begun and it makes me very happy to know that I am the navigator of my destiny.
I have had the chance to examine and reflect on things that have gone on in my life and sometimes, I wish there was a rewind button so I could go back and look at the way things were and find a better resolution than which ever one was chosen at the time. I think that in many instances if we could actually go back and look at the things that we've done and been a part of, many of us would do things quite differently. So much of our time is spent on regrets and shoulda coulda wouldas that if we had a nickel for every one of these times, we would be rich.. But I'm learning that life is too short for regrets and shoulda, coulda, and wouldas.... There is a reason for everything that happens in your life and for every sad scene, happy endings are still possible. There will always be people that enter your life and sometimes, they are meant to come in and stay a while and sometimes they're just stopping through to bring a little something for you to hold on to. So many of us look to others for that happy ending, but in all actuality we are the only ones that are capable of gaining the happiness that we are in search of.
For everything that ends in your life you should be able to say that you walked away with a greater understanding of that situation regardless of what it is and that you're better because of it. It has taken me a very long time to be able to accept the ending of most things that have taken place in my life and sometimes it has taken me longer to appreciate and be happy about the ending of anything. But as I grow and I live, I've learned that everything that happens, happens for a reason and when things end, it's just to make room for bigger and better things. So as this year comes to a close, I will say thank you for all of the things that have ended and look forward to all of the new beginnings coming my way, because ending a chapter only means that you're starting a newone. To all the new chapters in your life!!!
